"Wild at Heart" has been a huge thing, at least in the Christian community lately. It's call for boys to be men, it's declaration that all the longings for beauty and battle in men are God given and to be honored and embraced. But how does that translate to our culture of latte's and LCD TV's? I have a few hints. But first lets start at the place that gets me going... What really ticks me off.
boys. We treat girls like hockey cards, like we're racking up masculinity points. Take a minute and evaluate your behavior around girls and I'm sure many of you will have seen, if not taken part in this kind of behavior.
The more attractive girls that we have around us, the more of a man we are. If you have one, really good looking girl hanging around you, that trumps the other guys two not-so-good looking girls that hang around him. And on and on we go.
This is the first kind of guy: The predator. He prowls around preying on the feeling of his female friends, trying to get them as attached to him as possible so that he can lay claim to the most "man points". So he'll do things like have long talks, spend one on one time, flirt excessively - all so that he can have the strongest attachment with the girl, but not a boyfriend/girlfriend attachment! No way! That would imply commitment. And when the ball drops, and it turns out that the girl had feeling for him, it goes like this, "Oh, what? We're just friends? I can't believe you thought that, I had no idea!!" How do I know this? Because I participated, and on some level will probably always participate in this evil little game. It comes from getting your needs met in the opposite sex instead of God. Your needs for confidence and masculinity. But I aspire to be a protector. And some days I do better than others.
The protector sees girls not as points, but as responsibilities. Each young lady that is your friend puts you in the place of responsibility to fight and protect her heart. That means you watch what you say, you don't imply more than you want out of the relationship. That means you watch how flirty you are, you don't imply more than you want out of the relationship. And it means you are wiling to have the DTR talk (define the relationship) as often as it takes to make sure that your coming across the way you intend: as a loving brother. YOU PROTECT HER HEART!
So where does this fight come in? Well, you have to fight yourself. You have to fight to keep your mind on who you are before God, because if you don't, you will feel insecure and will need to have your confidence boosted by your girl friends, and therefore become a predator instead of a protector.
If you don't believe in Jesus Christ, then step up! This is the cause you've been waiting for! The fight to make a difference for eternity, when all the history books are gone! The fight against all the wishy washy nothingness that this world is offering people. You know it's crap! You'll never be perfect, but that's why He died, with everything you will ever do wrong, on His shoulders, taking down to hell and leaving it there.
Again! The ones who profess belief are just as bad at getting sucked in to the meaningless goals of career, sex, and money as those who don't. Yes, we've trading the One who thought of everything we love, for the stuff that He made. We do it often. But there are two ways to respond: take up the sword, or be taken captive.
More on that next week.
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